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Why does my husband see results before me?


Nothing is more discouraging than working out with your husband and him seeing results before you.  You think “We are doing the same diet and same exercise routine, why is his body transforming faster than mine?”  The truth of the matter is physiology. Men tend to have more weight, height and muscle mass that requires the need to burn more calories to function properly.  They tend to have a higher muscle-to-fat ratio as well and muscle naturally burns more calories than fat – even at rest. 

DO NOT let this hinder your progress! We are all built differently.  There are ways to help you see results but it is still going to take time – remember that.  Weight training helps to increase your muscle mass which inevitably increases the amount of calories you burn because you will change your muscle-to-fat ratio. (See what I did there, I tied it all together again)  No, lifting weights will not make you less feminine; it will make you stronger! I used to steer clear of any weights and told myself I could never lift that much weight. But then one day I got out of my head and out of my own way and realized I am capable of anything! I now can lift heavier weights than I ever thought I could.  

Ok – let us get back to that whole physiology thing I was talking about earlier.  Women and men are built very differently. This is something you must always remember when you watch everyone’s transformations.  Men tend to be bigger humans which means more everything. Women are generally smaller humans with less of everything including muscle which is what burns all those calories. 

Women tend to 

  • Retain more water 
  • Store more fat
  • Have sleep deprivation (which causes an increase in cortisol levels)
  • Stressed lifestyle

Stress also increases cortisol levels and women tend to be more stressed out than men. (To me it’s a societal thing and the expectations people have of women and our own person expectations.)  

Here is how I personally overcame some of these hurdles in my weight loss journey.  I started off with making sure I got plenty of good quality sleep. Anywhere from 6 to 8 hours was enough for me. I made sure to cut off all electronics at least 30 minutes prior to going to bed to help my brain relax and get ready for bed.  I cut out all extra sugar and salt as much as possible. Think about it this way – sugar turns into fat when you eat it in excess! And water follows salt – so the more salt you eat, the more water you hold onto. So put that salt shaker down and try other ways of seasoning you food. I used to be a plain jane when it came to food until I discovered all the spices available to me! You will find that food tastes better when you aren’t masking the flavor with salt.  Sugar is a little tough to avoid altogether because it is literally in everything!! But natural sugar is best – such as sugar from fresh fruits. If there is a sugar-free option in something that you eat (and the sugar isn’t replaced with aspartame!!) then get the sugar-free choice. It’s a small change like this is truly makes a difference. You need sugar as a means for energy just not in excess. I have cute out all sugary sodas and teas as well and guess what – I lost 4lbs of fat y’all! If I can do it, so can you! I still have my coffee every morning but I no longer add sugar like I used to on top of my creamer. (Seriously what was I thinking it’s so sweet to me now!)  I have progressively decreased the amount of sugar and creamer in my coffee and I still love it! It takes baby steps to cut this out of your diet so don’t think I quit cold turkey. I am human like you – I did one step at a time. Diet is 70% of your weight loss and fitness lifestyle journey. And yes it is a lifestyle – not just a one and done. Make smarter and healthier choices in the kitchen and you will feel more motivated to work towards those goals in the gym.  

So here is the point of all this – while men (including my husband) tend to see results and changes faster than us women – DON”T GIVE UP!!  Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither will that body you are working for. Make small changes over time, add some weights to your workout routine and get plenty of rest and you will be well on your way to the results before you know it!  (If you are a visual person like me then take progress pictures.. you don’t have to share them with anyone but yourself!)


Peace, Love & TruFit 

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